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What IS kink: A short history

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Kink is defined as being non-conventional sexual practices, concepts, or fantasies by everyday society. To most people kink is an umbrella term for being sexually explorative, and/or having fetishes.  Let us start at the beginning, kink is not new, kink has always been a part of our society since the beginning of human sexuality. The earliest and most obvious kink example would be during the Roman Empire….you guessed it… orgies!   Romans were known for their debauchery and lust in their society and religion. We are talking about a culture filled with exhibitionists, voyeurs, and the primal need for sex and pleasure. Roman art was filled with naked bodies, appreciating the human form. They worshipped Bacchus who was known as the god of wine and debauchery, overall sounds like a fun time!  Who enjoys watching passionate and intense embraces? Of course, as time goes on the Roman Empire grows and shrinks, and soon Britannia raises up and becomes a focal point for Western society.  Kink doe
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A Masochist's Thoughts

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  Kink has a plethora of wonderful words that send goosebumps up and down my spine; such as Dominant, spanking, leather, and so on. Masochism is one of those words which best describe someone who receives pleasure from pain. I’m not saying all pain all the time, but when it comes to playing in a scene we definitely will take what you give us.  As a masochist, I often get asked what makes pain so pleasurable, or how do I push past what others would shy away from. Let’s break this down, shall we? When I say ‘push past’ the pain, I’m referring to mentally separating our bodies’ natural response of “ouch” and focus on the sensation. During a scene involving impact, I will purposely close my eyes and focus on keeping my body relaxed and serene. If I see even the slightest movement I could tense up and cause more harm to myself, the Dominant, or, heaven forbid their toys. Keeping one knee bent in order for blood to continue circulating is best, plus it means I can withstand a longer play ses
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Simple Ways to Celebrate Power Exchange

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  Recently I was out taking some kinky erotic photographs with my Pixie and my Beastie. It got me thinking about power exchange playtime and how simple things can heighten the sexual and/or kinky experience.  It brings the brain into acts that are usually simply expressed through  physical desires, thus adding that mental element to take our arousals to the next level of… WOW!!! Power Exchange   - is the act of one person taking power in a kinky and/or sexual situation and one or more person(s) consensually giving up their power for a * consensually negotiated time frame and for * consensually negotiated acts.  *Please, dear reader, note that I state consensually negotiated as a term for this kind of kinky playtime. Negotiating consent, safety, and boundaries is highly important to any and all sexual, kink, and BDSM playtimes and relationships In the spirit of a love for Power Exchange playtimes I came up with a quick go to list of ways to use Power Exchange to enhance your play. Com
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Slut Yoga: Top Five Stretches for Submissives Before Play

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Who’s ready for slutty yoga?! As any seasoned submissive knows, we have poses to show during scenes but what about before the fun happens? Here are some tips and tricks I’ve picked up over the years to help prepare for a scene or even wild sexy time, and with a Domme like mine, I definitely need to be ready.  Remember to hydrate, stretch, and have fun! Stretch your ACL and calf: When participating in impact play always remember to keep at least one knee slightly bent while standing or bent at the waist. An odd tip I know, but learned from my past beginner mistake. If you lock your knees it restricts the blood flow, and can possibly make you light-headed and/or pass out.  Butterfly: Pretty basic pose to know, and will help stretch out your legs, and hips. Allowing for easy movement, and helps prevent leg cramping.  Frog Stretch: It may sound a bit odd, but I promise you it feels amazing and is fun. Get on your hands and knees, and angle your knees out while putting the bottom of your
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BDSM: The Absolute Basics

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Historically the ideas of BDSM are a far cry from what we now look at as BDSM today. Even the term BDSM, a recent term developed in our modern age originating in the late 60’s or early 70’s, is symbolic of a kinky sexuality involving mutual consent and a mutual exploration of desires and fantasies. Before jumping too heavily into the world of wild kinky fantasies it’s good to understand what BDSM exactly means. So let’s jump in to some basics: B - Stands for Bondage , this involves any means of restraint which we use for enjoyment, mostly erotic enjoyment. This isn’t exclusive to just rope bondage, it can include any type of restraint from fuzzy handcuffs to plastic wrap, rope to silk scarves; if you can tie someone up or down with it that’s all part of sexual/erotic bondage.  Now the D & S both have two meanings and serve to cover dual concepts, so they will be listed twice to explore their duality.  D - It’s first meaning equals Discipline, the idea here is all about various form
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5 Unusual Places to have Scenes

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It’s kink, so how can there be even more unusual or ‘weird’ acts going on? One thing to keep in mind with kinksters, we’re a wild and fun-lovin’ group and if anything, we love a challenge. Most people who’ve watched the tv show Friends will remember that Ross admitted to having sex in “It’s a Small World” ride… Scandalous I know! If that’s not uncommon enough, how about when someone asks about your fantasies? I know at least one or two…..or twenty that have a fantasy about having sex outside (*raise my hand* me too).  As someone who doesn’t typically hide or shy away from my partners … like being spanked in the middle of Safeway by a partner, and then having to stop the woman behind me from kicking his ass … I’m always interested in experimentation.  In a car: Now I know what you’re thinking, a car is a cliche, but not if you’re riding in the passenger seat while your Domme is next to you. Driving down the freeway my Domme reaches over and slaps my thigh *dreamy sighs* now that was a
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Top vs Dominant: Figuring Out Roles Part One

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Defining roles in BDSM and kinky dynamics is one of the more challenging aspects of discovering who you are, and what you like in this realm of erotic/sexual play. There are so many terms that get thrown around in kink that it can be hard to keep them all straight, and cause a challenge in identifying your needs and wants to a potential kinky suitor. It is my keen desire to help you, my dearest reader, to sort out the basic ideologies of Top vs Dominant, so you can at least understand and articulate some of your basic kinky wants.  Top vs Dominant: So a tricky thing to remember is a Dominant is always a Top, but a Top isn’t always a Dominant.   In gay and lesbian sexual culture a Top is considered to be the penetrator, in other words they are the person inserting an object (often a penis or dildo) into the other partners orficies (I love the word orfice, it’s sooooooo naughty and yet not naughty at the same time).   In BDSM the Top is considered to be the giver of the negotiated act or
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