Simple Ways to Celebrate Power Exchange

 Recently I was out taking some kinky erotic photographs with my Pixie and my Beastie. It got me thinking about power exchange playtime and how simple things can heighten the sexual and/or kinky experience.  It brings the brain into acts that are usually simply expressed through  physical desires, thus adding that mental element to take our arousals to the next level of… WOW!!!

Power Exchange  - is the act of one person taking power in a kinky and/or sexual situation and one or more person(s) consensually giving up their power for a *consensually negotiated time frame and for *consensually negotiated acts. 


*Please, dear reader, note that I state consensually negotiated as a term for this kind of kinky playtime. Negotiating consent, safety, and boundaries is highly important to any and all sexual, kink, and BDSM playtimes and relationships


In the spirit of a love for Power Exchange playtimes I came up with a quick go to list of ways to use Power Exchange to enhance your play.


  1. Come Here: This term packs so much power, it is simple and straight to the point.  You aren’t asking your partner to come to you, you are giving them a simple command.  It can have varying connotations to the people using it based on what has been priorly negotiated and how it is delivered vocally, but the effect is generally that the other person(s) psyche takes immediate notice that you are taking control.


  1. You Belong to Me: Whether whispered in the ear as a verbal caress or firmly said while standing over someone this term is decisively claiming your partner(s) as your “property”, again this should be consensually negotiated ahead of time.  


  1. Kneeling or “Get on Your Knees”: Either the submissive or the dominant can use this one to establish a power exchange very quickly.  Being in a position of subjugation is a physical representation of the submissive's inner desires to give up control and, as we well know, physical acts can easily and directly affect our emotional outcome.  The dominant can stand over the submissive, giving them a rush of power, seeing the same physical manifestation of their partner’s desire to be dominated.  Again I recommend finding out your partner’s preferences ahead of time, just randomly kneeling for your dominant may not be something they enjoy, please actively communicate together to figure out how kneeling works best for all partners in the scene. 


  1. Go get the… : This is one of my personal favorite phrases to use. I very much enjoy the physical reaction when I send my submissive play partner off to retrieve an item. This works for collars and leashes, impact implements, as well as insertable toys and anything else that you may use during a scene. The command, whether said harshly or gently or anything in between, establishes a fast and hard power exchange simply because it’s not a request.  What can greatly enhance this is dependent on the item the dominant is having them retrieve; a collar will often elicit joy at being placed into a service mode, a paddle may inspire anticipation, fear, delight, etc. Try this command with different negotiated items and gauge your partner’(s) responses, you’ll find that it creates all sorts of fun and delicious emotions that all tie back into giving and taking control over to each other. 


Now, my dear reader, it’s up to you. Talk to your playmate and negotiate some of these things and let the power exchange flow. You will certainly find that by exploring this style of play you’ll create not only a wild and wicked good time, but an intense and wonderful connection.  Happy Kinking!!!


~Gem

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